WENDY WILLIAMS BETRAYS ALL WOMEN!

"CHRIS BROWN WILL BE PROMOTED
ON THE WENDY WILLIAMS SHOW"

It really sickens me how so many people in our society, particularly the men who hand down the sentences and make the laws that govern us, continuously take crimes against women and children so lightly, by just slapping these people on the hand. Many actually empathize with the men who commit these violent crimes, as Wendy Williams is towards Chris Brown.

I was deeply saddened to see Wendy Williams, whose show is heavily supported by women, myself included, embrace Chris Brown. She is slated to use her female fan base to support and promote a man who beat a beautiful young girl beyond recognition. Damn Wendy! What are you thinking?

As a former victim of both child abuse and domestic abuse, I can’t help but to resent Wendy for this very insensitive act of kindness towards the type of men who abuse us. It is a slap in the face to women at large, especially Rihanna and other women like myself, who have suffered mentally and physically at the hands of men we chose to love.

Last year, I had the unpleasant experience of sitting through a jury trial of a family member who had been brutally attacked by a “friend” who attempted to rape her and GOD only knows what else. Witnesses were brought on stand to recount their similar experiences with this man. Not only that, he had served time in prison for attempted murder in a similar offense against a woman. All the while, his female public defendant, sat next to him rubbing his back and consoling him. I was mortified.

Child abuse and domestic abuse is not pretty folks – long after the body heals, the inner scarring is horrific and the healing from this mental scarring takes years and sometimes a lifetime. Do you really have to experience one of these unconscionable crimes first hand to get it? I certainly hope not, as I wouldn’t wish either one on my worst enemy! Damn! Damn! Damn!

REAL HOUSEWIVES OF ATLANTA KIM & KANDI ROCK!

"Tardy for the Party Is A One Hit Wonder"

No one foresaw this coming - but Kandi Burruss obviously had a vision! Dallas Austin couldn't or wouldn't make it happen, but Kandi sure did, and did one helluva job of it.

In an interview with Us, Kandi says. "Just like everyone else, I watched the first season of the show, and I knew what everyone thought of her vocals. I knew if it wasn't hot, people would look at me like I'm whack. I took it in... but the only thing I kept was the title!"

I for one am so happy for Kim Zolciak after the horrible bullying and abuse she withstood from NeNe Leakes and Sheree Whitfield this season. NeNe even picked on Kandi.

Kim's dance moves were impressive, although she was a little off key in some parts, but for the most part it was very very good. This was a live performance - so all of this is perfected in the single. The song is upbeat and very catchy.

Kim looked amazing sporting a white jacket, tights and over the knee boots. When Kandi came out to join her at the end, also looking amazing, I literally gave them a standing ovation in my bedroom. I was like the proud Mama. In fact, had it not been for the performances of Kim, and Kandi performing her new single, "Rise Above The Hater's", in addition to her very emotional interview, the reunion show would have been a total bust, as the other housewives lacked lustre and even refused at times to answer Andy's questions. Can they not be entertaining without drama?

You go girls - I loved it! Just keep NeNe's ass out of the mix for continued drama-free success. I have added the song to my morning dance exercises. It is a fantastic dance tune - try it - you will love it! Let's support these two ladies - they deserve it!

CHRIS BROWN CONTINUES TO DISPLAY TYPICAL ABUSER BEHAVIOR!

"Victims of Domestic Abuse Should Shout The Details From The Roof Top!"

Typical of men who beat their women, Chris Brown had this to say as he once again tries to selvage his career.

“While I respect Rihanna’s right to discuss the specific events of February 8, I maintain my position that all of the details should remain a private matter between us. I do appreciate her support and wish her the best. I am extremely sorry for what I did, and I accept accountability for my actions. At this point, I am taking the proper steps to learn about me and grow from my mistakes. I only hope that others in similar situations can learn from our experience as well. Abuse of any kind is always wrong. The rest I leave it to God.”

Is this not the typical response of an abuser? Of course he wants the details to remain between he and Rihanna, because the details are proof positive of the dangerous animal he became when Rihanna pissed him off. Abusers count on the victim to protect his reputation by keeping quiet and hiding any evidence of the abuse. Typically the victim obliges, because as Rihanna discloses in her interview, they are embarrassed for people to know they not only chose this maniac but fell in love with him.

Rihanna has apparently grown past that trap and opened up about her experience in an interview with Diane Sawyer on 20/20 last night. This was evidenced by her very candid discussion of her ordeal, and when she promptly corrected Diane for insinuating that she wasn’t strong. She reacted by saying, I am a strong woman, this happened to me and it can happen to anyone.

If you are being abused by your lover, tell anyone who will listen. The only people who don't know about your attack, should be those you haven't seen. When women began to expose these monsters, 90% of this abuse will cease, as most of these men don't want outsiders made aware of their behavior. The other 10% are such low-life's, they don't give a damn - they are abusive and proud of it.

JON GOSSELIN'S GIRLFRIEND HAILEY GLASSMAN - LEARNS TWO VALUABLE LESSONS!

The Lessons Are:
When You See Crazy Cross the Street, and Close Your Legs To Married Men!

Hailey Glassman, the 22-year old girlfriend of Jon Gosselin is on television crying her heart out in a two part interview with the 'INSIDER', that aired Thursday night and the finale is tonight.

Apparently, Jon is taking his frustrations out on the poor girl and she can't take it any more. Throughout most of the interview, she is in tears obviously heartbroken and in pain from his abuse, and the unflattering press.

Hailey is young and dumb, what's your excuse? She's learning valuable lessons in this stage of her life, that hopefully, once she leaves Jon's ass, she will walk away wounded but wiser with lessons well learned and never to be repeated. At one point in the interview, she says she begs him to just let her go! As if that is his decision - talk about giving a man power over you!

The reminder for all women in this pitiful situation, single does not mean separated, filing for divorce, or in the midst of divorce. He's married until he can show you a divorce decree, and if it isn't dated two years back - run for your life (literally). I have told y'all 500 times, DON'T DATE MARRIED MEN OR RECENTLY DIVORCED MEN! Divorce is debilitating and it takes a minimum of two years before one is healed enough to choose a mate for all of the right reasons. Dating married men - do you really need an explanation? Also, how many times does Oprah have to tell us that "love doesn't hurt" and "when you see crazy to cross the damn street"!

PEOPLE PLEASING - A GOOD OR BAD QUALITY?

Nice Guy's Win The Battle, But Lose The War!

It has been my experience that 'people pleasing' garners disrespect from others and causes people to view us as weak and puppet like. When people know they can jerk your chain, unfortunately they do! Somehow people have a radar for detecting the desire to be approved of and it is viewed as a weakness rather than an admirable quality. Most people fall into the trap of 'people pleasing' innocently with a genuine desire to help others, as with President Carter and President Obama.

First of all, pleasing everyone at the same time is an impossible feat, we can try, but it can't be done. We must all learn that approving of ourselves is far more important than other people approving of us and our actions. The dangers that I encountered with trying to win someone's approval, aside from the fact that it can't be done, was unleashing my anger venomously when the ultimate disrespect and failure to please occurs. One thing that I wholeheartedly concur with when it comes to Sun Sign traits, Scorpio's cannot handle being disrespected! I turn into a 'bitch on wheels' when disrespected, and at that point I don't give a damn whether I am liked or not. Which of course, is a definite turnoff. One of my daughter's and I had this 'people pleasing' conversation a few days ago and it was an eye opening conversation.

What I am learning (yes, I'm a work in progress), it is so OK not to be Mr. or Mrs. Nice Guy all of the time. Confrontation and conflict can be problem solvers and not necessarily bad situations to be in. If we avoid these two situations at all costs, it's a given that you will be disrespected and lose the support of others by the droves, because you come off as weak, a procrastinator, and indecisive. In romantic relationships, 'people pleasing' can be very destructive, this trait is also detrimental when one is engaged in any leadership position. In leadership positions, 'people pleasers' are forever in a dilemma and in constant turmoil within themselves - asking who do I please? how do I please? and God forbid, what happens if I can't please everybody? So how do you overcome this trait?

1. Strive for the highest degree of integrity in all aspects of your life.
2. If you are not already, become the type of person you can love and respect unconditionally.
3. Embrace your values, convictions, and core beliefs. Then, execute them accordingly.
4. Do the right thing according to your own beliefs and value system.
5. Never, ever compromise when it comes to your values and core beliefs.
   

Do these five (5) things and you will break the 'people pleasing' addiction. Following these guidelines will enable you to make decisions and make them quickly. Mulling over things is a sign that you are considering the opinions of others moreso than your own. So what if you make a wrong decision and some people or everybody disapproves - respect for yourself and the respect of others comes from being decisive not whether you are right or wrong. At the end of the day it is far better to leave a legacy of respect rather than liked, and your chances of being known for both are far better when 'people pleasing' is not your goal.

MY HOMEBOY - TYLER PERRY

"He's Doing It & Doing It Well"

Don't nobody talk about my Tyler Perry, because that's when Ms. Edna goes off!

Recently movie producer, Spike Lee made asinine remarks about Tyler's movies - calling them "coonery and buffoonery.”

I take exception to Spike Lee's remarks because I am so proud of Tyler Perry, his accomplishments, and more importantly his positive portrayal of black people as doctors, lawyers and indian chiefs.

Madea, is one of my favorite characters and I got real upset with Tyler when it was rumored that he was thinking of squashing her. The 'Madea' character is humorous and very real.

I have never sat in a Tyler Perry movie (I haven't missed a one), and feel embarrassed. I live in Smyrna very near the home of my Tyler, and when guests come to town, his estate is one of the first places I proudly show off. In the winter when the leaves fall from the trees, his home is a glaring reminder of what can be accomplised with hard work and determination as a black man in the USA.

My family and I drive my 9-year old grandson by his place often as a reminder and motivator. More importantly, we point out the character and integrity of Mr. Perry. Some people try to bring him down by saying he's gay - my response to that "so what if he is? It would'nt tarnish his character or integrity!"

Why pick on my Tyler, Mr. Lee - when the obvious choice of people to attack would have been rappers who glamorize drug dealing, thuggery and total disrespect of women. They have poisened the minds of our youth and contributed to their low self esteem and self-hatred moreso than we could have ever dreamed 'Amos & Andy' did. Yes we have a Black President, and Tyler Perry represents just as well as my Barack Obama! He doesn't shame us - he uplifts us - and not only that he gives back to our community.

Nice try Mr. Lee - but my Tyler has a huge fan base that you or no one else can destroy, but you can piss us off, which you get an A+ for.

REAL HOUSEWIVES OF ATLANTA ENDS SEASON FUED!

Women Hating Women!

There really are women who support one another and rise to the top being the biggest cheerleaders of each other. We obviously can't tell with the way women are being portrayed on TV.

Drama, drama, and more drama is what network producers have decided that women want to see on television, and we prove their theory right by tuning in every week and dissing these women after every show. This is why I made the decision not to write about the RHOA this season.

Broke, rich or somewhere in between, it's obvious that all of these women have plans to make the most of their 15-minutes of fame and there is not a thing wrong with that. In my opinion, they would be stupid not to milk it for all that it is worth. Lisa said it best last night "I want to be wealthy and I want to stay wealthy". This is what I love about these women – their drive and determination to succeed. But, what I don’t like and can't understand is their lack of determination to also be warm and caring human beings with integrity in the process.

It appears to be beyond them to support causes that doesn’t place them at center stage, support each other's efforts without back stabbing, or in NeNe’s case, refrain from getting all up in someone's face when unbridled jealously rears it’s ugly head. Seeing women behave this way is just plain ugly and wrong!

Ladies, society is showing us everyday – that it is not a good thing to be poor in America, be it poor literally or debt poor. We are all fast falling off of the bandwagon that ‘poor is the gateway to heaven’, and jumping on the bandwagon of ‘the only way to help poor people is not be one of them’, by the droves. Precisely why I preach to all of you to place being the best that you can be and good decision making in all areas of your lives at the very top of your priority list.

In the process, just remember to hang onto your integrity like a Pitbull, and don’t let anyone tell you that it’s wrong to want more. It’s stupid not too - unless you enjoy losing your homes, living from hand-to-mouth, being one castastrophe away from being destitute, unable to send your kids off to college, assist them financially, or provide good health care for you or your family. Believe it or not – this is today’s AMERICAN WAY!

DAVID LETTERMAN DERAILS BLACKMAIL SCHEME!

Was He Wrong For Joking About His Affairs?

David Letterman announced on his talk show Thursday night that he was the victim of a $2 million extortion plot by an employee of the CBS show 48 Hours documentary show.

According to Letterman, the employee threatened to write a screenplay about Letterman’s sexual affairs with female employees. Dave told the audience that he found a package in his car three weeks ago from a person claiming to have information about his sexual affairs and demanding $2 million to avoid a public humiliation.

TRAGEDY STRIKES REAL HOUSEWIFE OF ATLANTA!

Ashley Jewell (A.J.), the ex-fiancée of Real Housewives Of Atlanta, Kandi Burruss, was fatally beaten and stomped early Saturday morning in the parking lot of ‘The Body Tap’, a strip club in Atlanta of which he was a co-owner .

While being transported to Piedmont Hospital, he died from blunt force trauma to the brain.

Police have arrested Frederick Richardson as a “person of interest” in connection with the beating. Kandi is understandably devastated by this news. On twitter, she revealed: “I could never in a million years imagine this happening. Please pray for A.J.'s children … that's who I'm the most concerned for. I'm about to give my swollen eyes some rest now. I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for their prayers.”

Crime in Atlanta has reached an all time high, and authorities seem to be at a loss as to what to do about it. Something has got to be done, as the citizens of Atlanta are not safe in their own homes.

BEYONCE'S DAD NAMED IN A PATERNITY SUIT!

Truth or Fiction?

30-year old Alexsandra Wright has hired Attorney, Neal Hersh to represent her in a paternity suit filed with the L.A. County Superior Court. She is supposedly 6 month’s pregnant and names Mathew Knowles as the father of her unborn child in the paternity suit. Mathew is the father/manager of singer, Beyonce Knowles.

It has been rumored for a couple years now that Mathew and Tina no longer function as husband and wife and have been living separately for a few years. I have never understood why couples remain legally married when they are estranged, especially when one or the other pursues relationships with others.

I would think that Mathew would have sought divorce to protect his name and image since he obviously was intent on seeking the affections of other women. Had he done so, this story would not be sensationalized. Not only that, if I were Tina – I certainly would have gotten divorced to spare myself the embarrassment of a presumed cheating spouse when you don’t even live with the man anymore.

Joe and Katherine Jackson are another example of this type of bizarre arrangement. Oh what a tangled web we weave!