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Ms. Edna gives expert dating and relationship advice to strong, intelligent women world-wide on how to find a good man, date smart and get married. Her excellent relationship and dating advice helps to build your self-confidence, self-love and self-respect as you set out to create exclusive, monogamous, and loving relationships that lead to marriage. Basically, Ms. Edna teaches women how to love themselves all the way to the altar.

Monday, May 21, 2012

WHAT WOMEN WILL DO FOR MONEY NOWADAYS IS UNPRECEDENTED!

"Is Shame Lost Forever?"

Just watched an episode of "La La's Full Court Life", where she literally pulled down her pants, bared her naked ass on national TV, and told someone to kiss her ass.

I am shocked and appalled at the behavior of women on Reality TV. The bullying, fighting, sexual escapades and basic lack of morals nowadays never cease to amaze me. Honestly, I hope I never see the day where I sell my soul to the devil for fame or fortune.

Reality shows are literally "off the chain" depicting women's behavior in an unprecedented all-time low. They will say and do anything. It has become so appalling, petitions are circulating to take such shows as "Basketball Wives" off the airways as if they are the only show that deserves to be taken off the air. They are just one in a long list of many. Is it just me or do you also find women's behavior on Reality TV totally degrading and disgusting?

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Steve Harvey's 90-Day Rule

"DO YOU AGREE OR DISAGREE"?

I totally get where Steve is coming from with this 90-day rule, as he is encouraging single women to develop some standards. I can so appreciate that aspect of his 90-day rule - but not the 90-days per sae.

My advise to single women in this regard, "honor your body, and forgo sex until you are in an exclusive and loving relationship with a quality, marriage-minded man that you love, and who loves you in return".

These type of relationships take time to develop. That's not to say that loving feelings and exclusive relationships can't develop in 90-days - but I don't believe in putting a time-frame on these type of relationships, although I certainly don't advocate entering into relationships prior to dating for at least three months.

Therefore, I advise women when asked "how long will it take"? The answer to that question would be - if and when I fall in love and enter into an exclusive relationship. Quite frankly, I am annoyed that men nowadays are thinking in terms of 'when' instead of 'if'. This attitude of entitlement pisses me off actually.

This is Ms. Edna's Rule, and I know for a fact, that it protects our honor, dignity, pride, self-respect, as well as our hearts. Contrary to popular belief, indiscriminate, easy sex outside of these perimeters tarnishes a woman's reputation, lowers her self-esteem, and is the quickest way I know of for getting your heart broken.

So, what do you think of Steve's 90-day Rule and Ms. Edna's Rule?

What To Do When He Doesn't Call

Stop mopping over men who aren't chasing you!

"Absolutely Nothing"

This is not even a question when you do the necessary work on self prior to dating. Why? Because you have self-esteem, self-love and self-confidence out of the yin-yang. Plus, a rich full social life.

Consequently, you don't worry your pretty little head over such trivial matters, as you are totally not interested in men who are not chasing you.

In the past, prior to working on self and falling madly in love with you, you probably freaked out when a phone call wasn't forthcoming after what you perceived as an amazing date.

No more of that nonsense where you panic and contact him. No ma'am not anymore, when this happens - it's NEXT, see ya and wouldn't want to be ya. Seriously, who needs a man so DUMB he can't recognize and appreciate all of your fabulousness!

What about you? Have you elevated yourself to this degree of self-love, self-confidence and dating smart? Or, are you still behaving like Ms. Desperado?

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Msedna.com Hacked

MsEdna.com has been repeatedly hacked as some of you are aware, as you have received emails bearings the email address ms-edna@msedna.com selling everything from penile enlargements to discounted prescription drugs.

Since our domain provider has been unable to stop this hacking, I have made the decision to discontinue the use of this domain name. Please be advised that from now on you must log onto www.msedna.blogspot.com to enter my site. Sorry for any inconvenience, but it is what it is and I am tired of fighting this never-ending battle.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log on daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012. Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Ladies! Cease Being the Victim & Become A Victor In Love

'MsEdna.com - How To Get Married'

“It's Easier Than You Think”

Everywhere you look, read or hear, there are idiotic stupid things been fed to women about ourselves, especially to Black women. We are unlovable, unattractive, uncompromising and unmarriageable.

Gail King announced the most recent stupid rhetoric yesterday morning, “most women would rather have big breasts than smarts” according to a recent study. Gail and virtually every woman I know, regardless of race, view this as the most stupid thing ever. It left me wondering where these “experts” got their subjects in order to come up with this conclusion.

We must cease buying into this dis-empowering rhetoric and hold fast to the concept of aspiring to love yourself by becoming the best you possible in all areas of your lives. In our society today, we have ‘boys’ who are mistakenly calling themselves men, beating their chests and feeling powerful, as a result of women buying into all of the nonsense they are fed on a daily basis that puts them in a desperate state.

These “men” (and I use that word loosely) think they have it going on and truly believe that their sexual prowess is off the chain because these days they can easily and effortlessly get laid, and when they do, women are screaming in feigned ecstasy.

When if the truth be told – most would be non-consensually celibate if women today weren’t behaving so stupid, desperate, immorally and faking orgasms just to stroke their egos. As you can see this has absolutely nothing to do with the skill of these ‘little boys’ game or sexual expertise. Their game is so weak, a blind man can see through it, and most don’t have a clue how to truly satisfy a woman – in or out of bed.

Bottom line ladies, you must only involve yourself with real men and teach them the appropriate way to treat you, both in and out of bed. How do you do that? Take back your dignity, pride and self-respect by never having sex outside of an exclusive and monogamous relationship, make men court you, lose that desperado attitude and start loving yourself more than you love the idea of being with a man.

Are you ready to make that change?

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log into msedna.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos what so ever unless duly noted.

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

IS 35 TOO OLD TO GET MARRIED FOR THE FIRST TIME?

“Not In My Opinion – It’s The Ideal Age”

First and foremost, 35 years of age is not old by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, in our present society, it's the new 25. I recently read an article that stated, “maturity makes for happier unions and greater economic security — both of which make divorce less likely”. I couldn't agree more, as factually, few of us are mature enough to make great spouses or great parents prior to our mid thirties.

It takes a certain degree of maturity to get to know and love who we are as a person, what we can live with and what we can’t live without. Also, to develop our self-confidence, self-worth, and relationship know how.

Unfortunately, few of us are taught how, or the importance of selecting a suitable mate or adequate parenting skills. Nor do we have the desire or self-discipline to develop these skills when we are in our twenties.

I married for the 2nd time @ 33. Although I had life experiences and a certain degree of maturity, I didn't have the self-love/knowledge, or expertise in knowing how to select a suitable mate. I was guided solely by my emotions...BIG, HUGE MISTAKE!!!

However, when I gave birth to my 5th child at 36, I was a much better MOM at this age than I was in my twenties. I had so much more patience, and I eagerly and willingly put his needs before my own, a direct result of my maturity level. So much so, that I felt guilty that I was able to give him so much more of me than I had given my other children at birth and during their early childhood years.

The cut off age for child-bearing in some women is 40, and men can produce children until they die – so what’s the problem with getting married at 35? Many women worry about having children with birth defects like ‘Down Syndrome’ when older and most Obstetricians highly recommend the Amniocentesis test for pregnant women over 35, particularly over 40.

I opted to decline this test during my supposedly, “high-risk” pregnancy after during a great deal of research and learning that ‘Down Syndrome’ births are not as common among African Americans. Thereby, the risks of the test far out-weighed the chances of my having a baby born with ‘Down Syndrome’. Sure enough, I vaginally delivered a healthy, bouncing baby boy with absolutely no complications!

So what do you think? Is 35 too old to get married for the first time?

Monday, April 2, 2012

How To Avoid Getting Married Only To Get Divorced!

"Love & Know Yourself"

If you want to 'divorce proof' your marriage, you must learn to love yourself and know yourself way before you take that walk down the aisle.

Marriage preparation takes time and maturity, which is why I don't advise it prior to age 35. Few people, both men and women alike, are ready to make a lifetime commitment such as marriage before age 35.

Marriage is not a means to an end as many believe, and it takes dedicated commitment to make the union work from both parties. Success in anything including marriage will require this dedication and hard work. As we know, most of us get married once mutual love is found. Consequently, allowing our emotions to make the decision for us to get married.

I just ran across the best article ever on preparing to get married, please read it. It is a mature guide for marriage preparation. I wish I knew what marriage was all about prior to getting married. Not once, but twice I married without getting to know and love me. Mature people don't "fall in love" as helpless victims of their emotions. http://www.aish.com/d/w/48938422.html

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Want To Have Any Man You Want?

"Love Yourself & Date Smart"

“Develop Unshakeable Self-Love & Self-Confidence”

This degree of self-love and self-confidence is referred to as the "It Factor"! Women with this unshakeable love for self as well as self-confidence, are friendly, fun loving and out-going women.

Women who have resolved to be excited and passionate about their lives and determined to achieve their dreams. These women don’t wait on things to happen, they make things happen as a result of their unwavering discipline to do whatever it takes to attain their dreams.

We become successful in love and everything in between when we have the self-confidence and determination to actually DO the things we need to do and say we are going to do in order to get what we want. At this point, we become an "unstoppable force" for attaining our dreams. Self-confidence and self-love are key to finding a good man and how we get married.

Do you believe this degree of self-love and self-confidence are attainable?

Thursday, March 22, 2012

WHEN MEN BEHAVE BADLY

This Is How You Find A Good Man and Get Married!

“NIP IT IN THE BUD”

It doesn’t matter whether you are in a committed relationship, marriage or the first date, when a man shows his ass, address it! The bottom line, we teach people how to treat us. Teach him that you will not tolerate being treated with anything less than kindness, consideration and respect.

When we genuinely love ourselves, it’s not a problem to retreat when we are ill-treated by anyone. When we allow men to mistreat us in any way, shape, form, or fashion, we are headed down a path of constant heartache and pain. Is this what you want? Of course not – so ladies, let him know beyond a shadow of a doubt, “if you don’t start nothing, it won’t be nothing”!

Never turn a blind eye and a deaf ear to even the slightest form of mistreatment. Learn to nip problems in the bud as they occur. Lose the tendency that so many women have of being “too nice” or “passive” out of fear of losing love, being labeled a trouble maker or too emotional. You must never be afraid to “rock the boat” by addressing mistreatment.

I am definitely not talking ‘bitching and complaining’ – I hate that! This is how we as women, give away our power – by begging to be treated properly. Hell to the Naw! I’m talking backing away and totally removing him from your life. This let’s him know in no uncertain terms – if he wants to be a part of your life, he will act like it – and mistreatment of any sort is not the way to remain a welcome entity in your life. Trust me – if he wants to be in your life, he will get the message loud and clear, straighten up his act or get the hell on!!! This is why "MEN LOVE BITCHES"!

Monday, March 19, 2012

I LOVE BEING A WOMAN!

"Get Married & Give Life"

"Being A Woman Is Truly A Gift"

Today I want to talk to you about being a woman and loving it. Everyday when I wake up, I thank GOD for giving me yet another day to live and work towards my worldly desires, in addition to creating me a woman – GOD'S gift to man. I love being a woman and I want you to love it also.

Too many of us have lost sight of our role as women, and especially our uniqueness, greatness and purpose. We were created the weaker vessel in physical strength, but oh so very abundant in love, caring, understanding, commitment, wisdom, empathy, nurturing, resilience, resourcefulness, and an uncanny ability to sense danger and protect those we love. The latter are predominant traits even in female animals – there is hell to pay when she feels her babies safety is being threaten.

As I began writing the previous paragraph, the adjectives that began to flow through my mind to describe a WOMAN were endless. Ladies, I beg of you to realize your unique greatness as a woman, embrace your greatness, love, revere and hold yourself to the highest standards. We were not created to be used and abused - but to be loved, respected, protected, cherished and adored. But guess what - it starts at home, with you, the amazing woman in the mirror!!!

Somewhere along our journey for equality, we lost sight of who we are and our purpose here on earth. Year after year, we are becoming less loved, protected, respected, cherished and adored. And, unfortunately by our own hand, as we have forgotten how great and special we actually are by reducing ourselves to mere slaves of men. We literally gave away our power when we stopped loving being a woman and set out to prove we could be a better man.

I am urging you today, to take back your power and feminine grace. Become the respected and highly revered woman that GOD created you to be. By so doing, you will find peace in the valley as the admiring loving wife of a husband who loves, respects, protects, cherishes and adores you. Therefore, take pride in being a woman and loving it! Become the woman you were created to be, get married by becoming the type of woman that men respect and adore ( http://www.squidoo.com/behisdreamgirl ).

Why do you love being a woman, and being loved for being a woman?

Friday, March 16, 2012

How Soon After A Breakup Should You Wait To Date?

Being in a relationship should never undermine your self-respect - keep a level head always!

"At Least Six (6) Months - Ideally A Year"

Breakups are extremely painful, especially if you are not the one who initiated it. Even at that - it's painful nonetheless. It's important to realize while healing after a breakup, it takes two to tangle and the disconnect that created the breakup is rarely one-sided. Therefore, it is imperative that you do some self-evaluation after a breakup. You must own and take responsibility for your actions over the course of the relationship, in addition to fully healing before getting involved again and taking left over baggage into a new relationship.

This is not to say that you should beat yourself up, just recognize your own character flaws and work on those that are destructive to your relationships, in order not to repeat them in the future. This character readjustment doesn't occur overnite, it takes time and practice. Doing so will also help to stave off the tendency that many women have of playing the victim, and blaming men for all of their relationship mishaps. When in reality and more times than not, mishaps occur because we choose to put blinders on when we first meet a man. I can certainly plead guilty to this charge.

I've noticed that many women are hell bent on getting into another relationship immediately after a breakup, or during the final stages of an immenient breakup. Does Kim Kardashian & Jennifer Lopez come to mind? This is a huge mistake, and one needs to ask herself, "why is it I can't be happy alone, why must I always have a man in my life"? This in and of itself screams insecurity, as one needs to be happy whether in a relationship or not and just love yourself. We should never be dependent upon another to be happy - just happier!

So tell me, how soon after a breakup do you think one should wait before entering into another breakup and why?