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I Have To Share!

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I have been eyeing the more expensive version of this shoe, and was about ready to break down and purchase them when these shoes showed up on MsHeel.com! Having purchased several of Ms. Heel's shoes before, I knew they would be a winner, as her taste is impeccable. She is not one to fill her site for the sake of inventory, she carefully selects the most stunning shoes at the most reasonable prices to keep us happy, satisfied, and stunningly fashionable!

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SHOULD YOU STAY WHEN HE OR SHE IS GAY?

Ms. Edna Says NO!

Yesterday, on Tyra the married couple on the left were having problems because he read her dairy and discovered that she was gay. Consequently, he is plagued with jealously.

Every time she goes out or is alone with one of her girlfriends or a female , he becomes suspicious. She claims to be hurt that he read her dairy, yet takes no responsibility for not disclosing her sexuality prior to marrying him or afterwards.

I believe that it is wrong on so many levels for gay people to marry straight people and I can't understand why they would chose to hurt someone else so deeply. It is pure selfishness in my opinion, and a person who is thinking only of their own personal needs. Be it the need to hide their sexuality from family, friends, co-workers, employers, etc. Or, in this woman's case, not wanting to leave the security of her marriage.

Tyra suggested that the couple seek counseling - what the hell is that suppose to do? It's not going to turn her straight, and it certainly isn't going to make him happy that he married a lesbian. The thing that bothered me most was the double standard that the predominately female audience exhibited, by feeling sorry for her, and Tyra's empathy. Had that been a man who duped a woman into marrying him knowing he was gay, it would have been a different story. The same audience, as well as Tyra would have been put off that he did that to some poor unsuspecting woman.

These type of Gay people need to stop being selfish as well as coward's and leave others out of their drama and face the world honestly! Others do it every single day - so ask yourself why can't you? My nephew came out early in life, it wasn't easy for him, but he manned up and did it. I have always respected him for doing that, and it didn't change my love for him one iota. Ellen Degeneres also has my utmost respect. I loved her prior to her coming out ,and loved her even more afterwards for being true to who she is. I don't believe in people hiding their sexuality for any reason. If people can't accept you for who you are - SCREW em!

JUST 45 DAYS REMAINING UNTIL NEW YEAR!

Are You There With Your New Year’s Resolutions?

Lose Weight /Get In Better Physical Shape and Find My Soul Mate ranked high on the list of both male and female new year’s resolutions. Was one or both of these yours? In just 45 days, we are coming upon a New Year ladies. God willing, we will be granted yet another opportunity to make ourselves happy in the New Year by achieving our most heartfelt goals. Chances are, like me, another year has gone by that you didn’t fulfill your dreams. My primary goal for 2009 was to get down to my goal weight of 138 lbs. Now, I find myself just 45 days away from 2010 and the goal unfulfilled. Not only that it’s highly unlikely that I will be able to achieve it within the next 45 days. Granted I lost some weight by exercising and eating healthy sometimes – but for the most part, I gave into quick fixes, which sabotaged my efforts.

I had an entire year to lose 70 lbs. and I blew it, simply because I lacked the self-discipline to consistently pursue the well thought out route that I mapped out at the beginning of the year to achieve my goal. But I am not beating up on myself – because I did a helluva lot better this year than I did the year before by eating healthy and exercising some of the time. A far improvement from not exercising at all and horrible eating habits in prior years that landed me in the hospital on an operating table.

Ironically, I am 45 lbs. away from my goal weight and 45 days remaining to achieve it. Where did I go wrong? I got anxious and let go of my well thought out plan to lose weight in place of instant gratification. Diets that are impossible to maintain for a lifetime, thereby causing me to over indulge after ending them, and regaining the weight that I so painfully lost. I have learned my lesson. I lost 25 lbs. this year by disciplining myself to eat healthy meals, exercise and eating my unhealthy treats in moderation - a sensible weight loss plan. Consequently, knowing that I could have whatever I wanted, my cravings for unhealthy foods were far wide and in-between. It’s not too late, I still have 45 more days to go that will bring me closer to my goal as we enter into 2010.

What exactly is this thing called self-discipline? Webster describes it as a correction or regulation of oneself for the sake of improvement. Acquiring good habits and acting in our own best interest requires self-discipline. The lack of self-discipline is the primary reason why we are out of shape, fat, remain in unhealthy relationships, put up with being mistreated, unable to close the deal toward marriage, stuck in life and unfavorable conditions, etc. The causes and effects of the lack of self-discipline are in a word endless.

We have 45 days left ladies, let’s get back on track and fulfill our 2009 goals, or at the very least, get back on track towards fulfilling them!

WENDY WILLIAMS BETRAYS ALL WOMEN!

"CHRIS BROWN WILL BE PROMOTED
ON THE WENDY WILLIAMS SHOW"

It really sickens me how so many people in our society, particularly the men who hand down the sentences and make the laws that govern us, continuously take crimes against women and children so lightly, by just slapping these people on the hand. Many actually empathize with the men who commit these violent crimes, as Wendy Williams is towards Chris Brown.

I was deeply saddened to see Wendy Williams, whose show is heavily supported by women, myself included, embrace Chris Brown. She is slated to use her female fan base to support and promote a man who beat a beautiful young girl beyond recognition. Damn Wendy! What are you thinking?

As a former victim of both child abuse and domestic abuse, I can’t help but to resent Wendy for this very insensitive act of kindness towards the type of men who abuse us. It is a slap in the face to women at large, especially Rihanna and other women like myself, who have suffered mentally and physically at the hands of men we chose to love.

Last year, I had the unpleasant experience of sitting through a jury trial of a family member who had been brutally attacked by a “friend” who attempted to rape her and GOD only knows what else. Witnesses were brought on stand to recount their similar experiences with this man. Not only that, he had served time in prison for attempted murder in a similar offense against a woman. All the while, his female public defendant, sat next to him rubbing his back and consoling him. I was mortified.

Child abuse and domestic abuse is not pretty folks – long after the body heals, the inner scarring is horrific and the healing from this mental scarring takes years and sometimes a lifetime. Do you really have to experience one of these unconscionable crimes first hand to get it? I certainly hope not, as I wouldn’t wish either one on my worst enemy! Damn! Damn! Damn!

REAL HOUSEWIVES OF ATLANTA KIM & KANDI ROCK!

"Tardy for the Party Is A One Hit Wonder"

No one foresaw this coming - but Kandi Burruss obviously had a vision! Dallas Austin couldn't or wouldn't make it happen, but Kandi sure did, and did one helluva job of it.

In an interview with Us, Kandi says. "Just like everyone else, I watched the first season of the show, and I knew what everyone thought of her vocals. I knew if it wasn't hot, people would look at me like I'm whack. I took it in... but the only thing I kept was the title!"

I for one am so happy for Kim Zolciak after the horrible bullying and abuse she withstood from NeNe Leakes and Sheree Whitfield this season. NeNe even picked on Kandi.

Kim's dance moves were impressive, although she was a little off key in some parts, but for the most part it was very very good. This was a live performance - so all of this is perfected in the single. The song is upbeat and very catchy.

Kim looked amazing sporting a white jacket, tights and over the knee boots. When Kandi came out to join her at the end, also looking amazing, I literally gave them a standing ovation in my bedroom. I was like the proud Mama. In fact, had it not been for the performances of Kim, and Kandi performing her new single, "Rise Above The Hater's", in addition to her very emotional interview, the reunion show would have been a total bust, as the other housewives lacked lustre and even refused at times to answer Andy's questions. Can they not be entertaining without drama?

You go girls - I loved it! Just keep NeNe's ass out of the mix for continued drama-free success. I have added the song to my morning dance exercises. It is a fantastic dance tune - try it - you will love it! Let's support these two ladies - they deserve it!

CHRIS BROWN CONTINUES TO DISPLAY TYPICAL ABUSER BEHAVIOR!

"Victims of Domestic Abuse Should Shout The Details From The Roof Top!"

Typical of men who beat their women, Chris Brown had this to say as he once again tries to selvage his career.

“While I respect Rihanna’s right to discuss the specific events of February 8, I maintain my position that all of the details should remain a private matter between us. I do appreciate her support and wish her the best. I am extremely sorry for what I did, and I accept accountability for my actions. At this point, I am taking the proper steps to learn about me and grow from my mistakes. I only hope that others in similar situations can learn from our experience as well. Abuse of any kind is always wrong. The rest I leave it to God.”

Is this not the typical response of an abuser? Of course he wants the details to remain between he and Rihanna, because the details are proof positive of the dangerous animal he became when Rihanna pissed him off. Abusers count on the victim to protect his reputation by keeping quiet and hiding any evidence of the abuse. Typically the victim obliges, because as Rihanna discloses in her interview, they are embarrassed for people to know they not only chose this maniac but fell in love with him.

Rihanna has apparently grown past that trap and opened up about her experience in an interview with Diane Sawyer on 20/20 last night. This was evidenced by her very candid discussion of her ordeal, and when she promptly corrected Diane for insinuating that she wasn’t strong. She reacted by saying, I am a strong woman, this happened to me and it can happen to anyone.

If you are being abused by your lover, tell anyone who will listen. The only people who don't know about your attack, should be those you haven't seen. When women began to expose these monsters, 90% of this abuse will cease, as most of these men don't want outsiders made aware of their behavior. The other 10% are such low-life's, they don't give a damn - they are abusive and proud of it.

JON GOSSELIN'S GIRLFRIEND HAILEY GLASSMAN - LEARNS TWO VALUABLE LESSONS!

The Lessons Are:
When You See Crazy Cross the Street, and Close Your Legs To Married Men!

Hailey Glassman, the 22-year old girlfriend of Jon Gosselin is on television crying her heart out in a two part interview with the 'INSIDER', that aired Thursday night and the finale is tonight.

Apparently, Jon is taking his frustrations out on the poor girl and she can't take it any more. Throughout most of the interview, she is in tears obviously heartbroken and in pain from his abuse, and the unflattering press.

Hailey is young and dumb, what's your excuse? She's learning valuable lessons in this stage of her life, that hopefully, once she leaves Jon's ass, she will walk away wounded but wiser with lessons well learned and never to be repeated. At one point in the interview, she says she begs him to just let her go! As if that is his decision - talk about giving a man power over you!

The reminder for all women in this pitiful situation, single does not mean separated, filing for divorce, or in the midst of divorce. He's married until he can show you a divorce decree, and if it isn't dated two years back - run for your life (literally). I have told y'all 500 times, DON'T DATE MARRIED MEN OR RECENTLY DIVORCED MEN! Divorce is debilitating and it takes a minimum of two years before one is healed enough to choose a mate for all of the right reasons. Dating married men - do you really need an explanation? Also, how many times does Oprah have to tell us that "love doesn't hurt" and "when you see crazy to cross the damn street"!

PEOPLE PLEASING - A GOOD OR BAD QUALITY?

Nice Guy's Win The Battle, But Lose The War!

It has been my experience that 'people pleasing' garners disrespect from others and causes people to view us as weak and puppet like. When people know they can jerk your chain, unfortunately they do! Somehow people have a radar for detecting the desire to be approved of and it is viewed as a weakness rather than an admirable quality. Most people fall into the trap of 'people pleasing' innocently with a genuine desire to help others, as with President Carter and President Obama.

First of all, pleasing everyone at the same time is an impossible feat, we can try, but it can't be done. We must all learn that approving of ourselves is far more important than other people approving of us and our actions. The dangers that I encountered with trying to win someone's approval, aside from the fact that it can't be done, was unleashing my anger venomously when the ultimate disrespect and failure to please occurs. One thing that I wholeheartedly concur with when it comes to Sun Sign traits, Scorpio's cannot handle being disrespected! I turn into a 'bitch on wheels' when disrespected, and at that point I don't give a damn whether I am liked or not. Which of course, is a definite turnoff. One of my daughter's and I had this 'people pleasing' conversation a few days ago and it was an eye opening conversation.

What I am learning (yes, I'm a work in progress), it is so OK not to be Mr. or Mrs. Nice Guy all of the time. Confrontation and conflict can be problem solvers and not necessarily bad situations to be in. If we avoid these two situations at all costs, it's a given that you will be disrespected and lose the support of others by the droves, because you come off as weak, a procrastinator, and indecisive. In romantic relationships, 'people pleasing' can be very destructive, this trait is also detrimental when one is engaged in any leadership position. In leadership positions, 'people pleasers' are forever in a dilemma and in constant turmoil within themselves - asking who do I please? how do I please? and God forbid, what happens if I can't please everybody? So how do you overcome this trait?

1. Strive for the highest degree of integrity in all aspects of your life.
2. If you are not already, become the type of person you can love and respect unconditionally.
3. Embrace your values, convictions, and core beliefs. Then, execute them accordingly.
4. Do the right thing according to your own beliefs and value system.
5. Never, ever compromise when it comes to your values and core beliefs.
   

Do these five (5) things and you will break the 'people pleasing' addiction. Following these guidelines will enable you to make decisions and make them quickly. Mulling over things is a sign that you are considering the opinions of others moreso than your own. So what if you make a wrong decision and some people or everybody disapproves - respect for yourself and the respect of others comes from being decisive not whether you are right or wrong. At the end of the day it is far better to leave a legacy of respect rather than liked, and your chances of being known for both are far better when 'people pleasing' is not your goal.

MY HOMEBOY - TYLER PERRY

"He's Doing It & Doing It Well"

Don't nobody talk about my Tyler Perry, because that's when Ms. Edna goes off!

Recently movie producer, Spike Lee made asinine remarks about Tyler's movies - calling them "coonery and buffoonery.”

I take exception to Spike Lee's remarks because I am so proud of Tyler Perry, his accomplishments, and more importantly his positive portrayal of black people as doctors, lawyers and indian chiefs.

Madea, is one of my favorite characters and I got real upset with Tyler when it was rumored that he was thinking of squashing her. The 'Madea' character is humorous and very real.

I have never sat in a Tyler Perry movie (I haven't missed a one), and feel embarrassed. I live in Smyrna very near the home of my Tyler, and when guests come to town, his estate is one of the first places I proudly show off. In the winter when the leaves fall from the trees, his home is a glaring reminder of what can be accomplised with hard work and determination as a black man in the USA.

My family and I drive my 9-year old grandson by his place often as a reminder and motivator. More importantly, we point out the character and integrity of Mr. Perry. Some people try to bring him down by saying he's gay - my response to that "so what if he is? It would'nt tarnish his character or integrity!"

Why pick on my Tyler, Mr. Lee - when the obvious choice of people to attack would have been rappers who glamorize drug dealing, thuggery and total disrespect of women. They have poisened the minds of our youth and contributed to their low self esteem and self-hatred moreso than we could have ever dreamed 'Amos & Andy' did. Yes we have a Black President, and Tyler Perry represents just as well as my Barack Obama! He doesn't shame us - he uplifts us - and not only that he gives back to our community.

Nice try Mr. Lee - but my Tyler has a huge fan base that you or no one else can destroy, but you can piss us off, which you get an A+ for.